From what I observed, the theological assumptions was that despite her abusive situation, she was required to stay in an abusive environment because she had always been taught of the sins of divorce. What do you say? How do you encourage a woman to pray to a God who has “allowed” her to live at the hands of an abusive man. How do you tell her that everything will be okay? Then I remembered the comments made by one of my classmates who stated “the woman has to reach a point of being tired and realize her strength.” With this statement now plaguing my thoughts, I realized that her reaching out for help signified her “strength”. It displayed that she was ready to reclaim her life; but the question still lingered, how do you interject “God”. She believed God expected her to survive and cope with her situation in order to remain “obedient”. My theological assumption was she potentially suffered from poor image of self. I don’t believe she understood her dignity of being a virtuous woman, who has value for the simple fact that she was made in the image of God. Being abused by her husband probably provided her with a distorted view of marriage, submission, and God’s intention of hierarchy and authority. I naturally empathized with her, viewing her as a victim who has been victimized on many different facets.
Many other theological issues are also intermingled with the situation pertaining to her abuse. There is an element of guilt, shame, blame, anger, fear, and injustice. Romans 7:21-25 is biblical text which provides some insight into how to give a person the opportunity to recognize their dignity and self-worth. It is important to reiterate that she is a woman of value because she is made in God’s image. The sins of her abuser infringes on her God-given dignity; Rational, Volitional, Personal, and Emotional. Once this has been established it makes it easier for me to help to restore her true self; which encompasses her physical, spiritual, and emotional state of being. This reinstatement focuses on her life from a Biblical point of view.
Looking at domestic violence has been both disturbing and broadening for my spiritual growth. It has caused me to wrestle with the ideas of suffering, injustice, and the presence of God. Another question now plagues my thoughts: "“Where is God during the ordeal of abuse?” Theologically, I know that God controls every aspect of our lives. It is our sustaining faith that lets us know that everything that happens in our lives is for some divine reason or purpose. It is essential to remember this, it is actually critical to hold on to this belief in order to maintain some semblance of life. In creating us in his image, God gave man another very fundamental tool; free will. Man is a dwelling place for one of two spirits; The Holy Spirit or a sinful sprit. The one who abuses has now embodied the spirit which is contrary to the will of God. Therefore one cannot say that...