Men vs. Women As you grow spiritually, first you become neutralized and then you bloom sexually. When you first start to grow spiritually, you seek balance and wholeness. So one of your initial motivations is to balance your inner masculine and feminine. As a woman, you may strengthen you inner masculine by cultivating your sense of purpose and direction, applying self-discipline and scheduling to meet your goals. As a man you may strengthen your inner feminine, magnifying your life force, communing with nature, and learning to go with the flow by feeling rather than by trying to change things.So, initially as they grow, women tend to become more self-directed and men tend to become more flowy. Women enjoy their independence and projects. Men enjoy their capacity to let go and allow things to be without effort. Women become more purposeful and success oriented. Men become more radiant and sensually alive. Men and women depend on each other less because they have cultivated their inner masculine and feminine.This motive toward inner balance may lead to sexual neutralization and spiritual stagnation. Women, in their effort toward self-directed achievement, can lose touch with their desire to be sexually ravished and spiritually surrendered. Women can become hardened and men can lose their edge. Although women want a man who is sensitive, they don't want a man who is afraid to stand his ground with a fierce and open heart. Although men want a woman who can take care of herself, they don't want a woman who is afraid to let down her guard and open in radiant ecstasy.Occasionally, women want to be ravished by a dangerously loving man of strength and integrity. And men want to be invited into pleasure by a sultry slut with a deep and open heart. If you suppress the darker, more wicked textures of love, then your sexuality becomes tepid. And the same is true spiritually: unless you can really "do it" with the divine, your spiritual heart begins to starve. It's good for a woman to be able to achieve her personal and professional goals. But that's not enough. To take the next...
